A Moms Most Unpopular Opinions (Explained)

Be kind 🤣!! I am in no way judging others for what they do or don't do.

These are things I have strong opinions on, and as moms, we do what we feel is best for our babies no matter what someone else's opinions are. I'm not here to try to convince you to do something different. I'm just sharing my thoughts 🥰 you do you.

That's the beauty of each family. We are all different, but so similar. We all love our babies, don't we?

Now for a little more explanation:

○ I dont want visitors at the hospital after giving birth. Surprisingly, so many people in my life were confused as to why I didn't want any visitors immediately after giving birth. I just pushed MY baby out of MY body, where I grew them....I want to have bonding time with them first before someone comes in wanting to hold them. ALSO, idk about anyone else, but pushing a baby out is hard work. I want to rest when I'm done, not be social. People will have baby's whole life to see them and get to know them. The first few days for me is about mother and father bonding with baby. Visitors also tend to interfere with breastfeeding. I have so much more to say about this, but I will leave it here.

○ Co-sleeping should be normalized: It is natural to co-sleep with babies. For most of human history, babies have been an extention of their mother- even when sleeping, they stay together. It wasn't until around the 1700s that some cultures started sleeping away from their babies. Out of all the moms I know in my life with young children right now, 80% of them cosleep with their children. But no one likes to admit it because there's so much judgment around it.

○ Breast is best: This may be the most controversial opinion. But there's nothing anyone can say to change my mind. I do understand that some women (and babies) are unable to breastfeed due to various reasons. In those cases, I'm glad we have alternatives for breastfeeding. But breast is still best. It gives your baby your antibodies, it helps strengthen their LIFE LONG immune system, lowers risk of autoimmune diseases such as asthma and diabetes, lowers risk of mom getting breast cancer or cancer in the reproductive system. Breastfeeding just does so much, I encourage you to do more research on it.

○ Daycare should be last resort: Studies show that the stress hormone is higher in children in daycare compared to children who aren't. They feel more secure with their parents and at such a young age, have no perception of if you are ever coming back to get them. I'm 30 and still remember when i was probably 4, crying, latched to my mom as she dropped me off at daycare. I didn't want to be there without her. You care more about your kid than the daycare worker- most of them are only there for a paycheck and abuse and neglect can easily happen without your knowledge.

○ Not all shots are necessary. : In a future post, I will give some book recommendations and other resources to teach you more about the diseases and the shots so you can make your own decisions on that topic.

○ Contact naps are better than crib napping. : yes, nap time is the perfect time to get things done without baby. but your baby will only be a baby for so long..... I choose to soak in all the time I have to cuddle and hold my baby.

○ Breastfeed until baby weans themself: AAP recommendations say to breastfeed until age 2 at least. Most children if left to wean themselves will wean by 3-5 at the latest. If people only knew how beneficial to human health it was to breastfeed, maybe less people would cringe at it.

○ Babies don't need baths every day: They don't get dirty! When they spit up or potty, we clean them off. other than that, they stay clean. Bath time as part of a nightly routine is excessive and drying to the skin.

○ I dont want my kids faces all over social media: I kindly ask family members who have fb and other socials to not post pictures of my kids either. Do some people disregard my wishes and do it anyway? yes. do I send them cute pictures of my kids anymore? no 🤣.

There are so many child predators in the world, I don't want my child to be a victim. Children need more privacy.

○ Screen time is good: I've seen people talk about how screen time is bad for kids especially under the age of 2. BUT if it's so bad, how did it help teach my child letters and numbers, colors, shapes, about God, and songs about what to do in case of various emergencies? Screen time can be SO BENEFICIAL if they're watching the right things.

I doubt anyone actually read my explanations 🤣 it's so long. But if you did, please leave a comment ❤️.

I hope you're having a good day.

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