12 question to ask your partner before moving in

So, you're thinking about taking the big leap and moving in together with your partner? That’s super exciting, but it’s also a major step! I remember when I was in your shoes, feeling a mix of excitement and nerves about all the new changes.

Before you start packing those boxes, it’s really important to have some heart-to-heart conversations. Sure, it might feel a bit awkward at first to dive into the deep stuff, but trust me, it’s totally worth it. From personal experience, discussing these things upfront can save you a lot of headaches later.

You want to make sure you both are on the same page and feel comfortable with the big decisions ahead.

Think of it as a way to not only make living together easier but also to strengthen your bond and ensure you’re both pushing towards the same goals. So grab a cozy spot on the couch, maybe some snacks and let’s get into it.

Here are some key questions to kick off the conversation for a happy and stress-free home together

1.Where do you see us in the future?

Like, are we thinking the same thing about where this is all going? Are we in it for the long haul or just seeing how things go for now?

What are your expectations around having children?

2.Do you think kids are in our future? How many? And when do you think would be a good time to start thinking about that seriously?

3.How will we handle conflict?

Everyone argues sometimes, right? What’s the best way for us to cool off and talk things through when we’re annoyed with each other?

4.How should we manage our finances?

Should we throw all our money in one pot or keep things separate? Or maybe a bit of both, like a joint account for bills and our own accounts for personal stuff?

5.How would you describe your spending habits?

Are you more of a saver or a spender? Like, do you splurge on big stuff now and then, or do you like to keep things tight and save up?

6.Build a breakup fund

This sounds super weird, but should we set aside some money just in case things don’t work out? Kinda like insurance so we’re both okay if we need to move on.

7.How will we manage household chores?

How should we split up stuff like cleaning or groceries? Do you want to switch things up, or does each person always do the same chores?

8.How do you feel about debt?

Do you have any loans or credit card stuff we should talk about? How do you usually handle debt?

9.What are your financial goals?

What big money things are you hoping for down the line? Like saving up for a house, or maybe traveling a lot?

10.What are your family goals?

Besides maybe having kids, how do you feel about family stuff? How involved do we want our families to be in our lives?

11.How much personal space do we each need?

Do we both need some alone time now and then? How can we make sure we give each other enough space without feeling distant?

12.How often do you expect to have guests over?

Are you cool with friends or family popping over a lot, or do you prefer planning it ahead? Just so we know what to expect.

Feel free to add more ideas in the comments🫰🏼

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