How To Tell If You Have Low Standards. 😕⬇️

Let’s be real for a second—relationships can be tricky, and knowing your own worth can get even trickier. Sometimes, without even realizing it, we set the bar a little too low. But what does that really look like? How do you tell if you’re accepting way less than you deserve? 💭 Well, I’m here to spill the tea on how to figure it out and raise those standards so high, even the stars can’t reach them! 💖

1. You Settle for Bare Minimum Effort

Girl, if he’s texting you once a day and calling it “effort,” 🚩 RED FLAG! Relationships require mutual energy and investment. Are you the one always initiating plans, conversations, or anything? If so, you’re probably accepting less than you should. Your partner should be just as excited to spend time with you, and they should be putting in the effort to prove it! 💕

2. You Overlook Deal Breakers

You know those things you swore you’d never tolerate? Yeah, those. 🚫 If you’ve been compromising on deal breakers (like how he treats others or his commitment to growth), it’s time to check in with yourself. What you accept becomes your standard, so if you’re brushing off major issues just to keep the peace, it might be time to reevaluate! Your boundaries are important, and they exist for a reason. 🙌

3. You Find Yourself Constantly Making Excuses for Them

Do you find yourself defending your partner to your friends, saying things like, “Oh, he’s just stressed” or “He doesn’t mean it that way”? 🤔 Sis, if you’re constantly explaining away their bad behavior, it’s a sign your standards have taken a nosedive. You deserve someone who doesn’t need a defense lawyer on speed dial. Instead, they should be lifting you up, not bringing you down. 💗

4. Your Needs Are Rarely Met

It’s not selfish to want things in a relationship—whether it’s affection, time, support, or anything else that makes you feel valued. 🌸 If you often feel unfulfilled or ignored in the relationship, that’s a big indicator your standards are lower than they should be. A healthy partnership is built on both people’s needs being met, not just one person’s. Your needs matter, queen! 👑

5. You Stay for Fear of Being Alone

One of the most common reasons people keep their standards low is the fear of being alone. 😔 Trust me, I get it. Loneliness can be tough, but staying in a relationship that doesn’t serve you will only lead to more heartache down the line. Being single and thriving is WAY better than being in a relationship that chips away at your self-worth. 🌿 Don’t stay out of fear—stay because you’re valued, loved, and respected. You deserve that!

6. You’re Always the “Understanding” One

Are you always the one who compromises, bends, and forgives? 🤷‍♀️ Being understanding is great, but not at the expense of your happiness. Relationships require balance. If you’re the one constantly being understanding while your partner doesn’t even try to meet you halfway, it’s a sign your standards might need some adjusting. You shouldn’t have to sacrifice your happiness just to make things “work.” 💁‍♀️

How to Raise Your Standards (And Keep Them High!)

So, now that we’ve talked about what low standards look like, let’s get into how to raise them! 🙌 Start by knowing your worth. You bring so much to the table—your kindness, your energy, your love. Don’t settle for anything less than what you truly deserve. Write down your non-negotiables, and stick to them! Whether it’s respect, communication, or loyalty, those things are not optional in a healthy relationship. 💕

And lastly, remember this: It’s better to wait for someone who truly values you than to settle for someone who doesn’t. 🌸 You’re worth the wait, the effort, and the love. So keep those standards high, queen! 👑💖

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