Trauma Dump Edition 🙃

Yalllll, for months I have been contemplating ever talking about this publicly but it’s eating me up and I feel like I need to get my shit off then I’ll be good .

Hi, my name is Danielle and my child’s sperm donor… I can’t even say father is a narcissist and a complete liar . I am truly an empath and that’s really what put me in this situation and I always gotta see for myself smh .

I didn’t realize how much of a liar my baby daddy was until I completely detached myself from him which was when I was three months pregnant and he was actually compulsively lying to me since we first started talking , I was just gullible and believe everything he said and why ? I don’t know . I be giving people the benefit of the doubt and I give way too many chances which is completely on me and I have accepted that but the things that this man does is unhinged .

I told my childs father I wanted to co parent when I was three months pregnant and he hated that and he made sure I knew it . He harrased me for a good 6-7 months out of my pregnancy . Talking shit about me on the twitter, continuously arguing with me over text , coming to my house and ringing the doorbell multiple times because he didn’t like what I was saying in conversations. Told me he didn’t want to be apart of the baby shower and plenty more. After he said he didn’t want to be apart of the baby shower I never asked him again , when he kept fussing with me I told him I didn’t want him to be in the delivery room because I didn’t think he could support me cause all he did was beat me down while I was pregnant ( verbally and emotionally), I really did feel bad about this but this was my first child and I was already so scared , I felt like I had to make the best decision for me at the time . I also didn’t let him sign the birth certificate after he was on twitter saying he was going to take me to court before the baby was even born, I also felt really bad about this but once again I was moving out of fear . The day I had the baby as soon as I popped her out , I did allow him to come to the hospital and spend that day there with us . While I was in the hospital after having a baby only that morning . He was in there telling my mother that everything was water under the bridge and being rude to me … literally told me my breath stunk … and it didn’t lmao rl just being an ass but hey whatever . I got home he didn’t come over for a day because he was upset about the birth certificate then came back around and was doing good . When I brought her home he was still on and off coming around every couple months and his excuse was always “life is hard” ….. like wtf ? Duhhh bitch was it supposed to get easier after a bby . Fast forward some more months still a piece of shit still popping in and out literally not even doing the bare min. All together I’m almost sure ; he’s only spent a good 900$ on my daughter ever and my daughter is 2 years old now .

So boom now to more recent drama . He was around for a little bit then Christmas Day he bought one gift stayed at my house for 20 minutes had a tude cause the baby kept crying mind you she had an ear infection nobody knew about till the following Monday , after Christmas he stopped communicating once again.

Come April this mother fucker text me and Is like we have to deal with each other for 18 years blahzay blahzay and to hit him back or he would be seeing me soon . So I hit him back I tell him I no longer want him to come to my house cause I don’t want to deal with him and that his parents are okay with him coming over to spend time with my daughter and that he needed to coordinate with them . He refused to do so because he has burned every bridge in his life and I’m not kidding !!! Since he refused to do that I asked him to meet me somewhere so he can see the baby I would be willing to do that but I didn’t want him at my house tryna stay all day saying I’m too controlling when I ask him to leave … so I told him just give me a day so we can meet up or take me to court cause i was beyond over going back and forth with him.

Y’all why did this mother fucker take me to court !!! And these judges don’t give af . He rl just wasted all my time and money . I never been to court so I retained a lawyer because I wanted to give my daughter a fair chance at getting everything she could . My lawyer was trash now that I think about it but he did get me a sweet deal but it doesn’t even matter because the judge just gets to choose your child’s fate !! Court ended and I have physical custody but we both have joint custody . He can come and pick her up 2 days out the week for 2 hours and 1 day on the weekend for 4-6 hours . He had to have five supervised visits and unfortunately they had to be supervised by me . He also is not allowed to drive my daughter or take her anywhere until he shares his driver license, registration, and insurance because I know for a fact he does not have those things and why would you even want to put your child in a situation like that. I countersued for child support . He refused to give my lawyer any real paper work so the judge came up with some numbers that he randomly gave her . That man has to pay 1250 in child support a month .

We are on the fourth visit and it’s been hell lmao the first child support payment was due on Sept 1st and since the day he was supposed to pay the child support has came and gone and he didn’t pay it. He hasn’t even called to talk to my daughter or asked to do his last visit. He also provided me with a suspended license and fake car insurance . And yall the car insurance dupe is so fucking bad . I don’t even care though because I just want him to either step up and be a good dad and have his shit together or leave me tf alone .

This was a lot lmao , pray for me yall !

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