this is for the people pleaser 🫶

saying no is hard 😅 it can feel awkward and uncomfortable, and sometimes it seems so hard that we don’t do it - we just say yes, even when we know we don’t want to. if you struggle with people pleasing, or saying no, these tips are for you ⤵️

when you should say no:

✅ when you feel uncomfortable

✅ when you feel guilty or obligated

✅ when you’re overloaded

✅ when it crosses your personal boundaries

✅ when you’re saying yes just to please someone

✅ when you don’t feel like you “can” say no

how to say no correctly ⤵️

✅ don’t over-apologize or over-explain

✅ communicate clearly

✅ delay your response if you feel uncertain

✅ be assertive but respectful

✅ don’t beat around the bush

other ways to say no ⤵️

😶 when someone asks for details in your life:

- i'm sorry, i just don't really want to talk about/ share that right now

- i’d prefer to keep that part of my life private for now, i hope you understand!

- i prefer to show my results instead of sharing my plans, i hope you understand!

😶 when someone asks you to make plans:

- i don’t have the bandwidth to do (activity) right now, maybe another time?

- i would love to, but i already have plans that (insert day/time)

- thank you for thinking of me! i wish i could, but i’ve got a lot going on and i need to focus on those things right now

- i’d love to, but i can’t (insert day/time) - maybe another time :)

😶 when someone wants you to do something you’re morally against:

- (insert activity) just isn’t conducive to the life i’m building for myself, but do you wanna (insert activity) instead?

- i don’t enjoy/feel comfortable doing (insert activity) anymore, so i’m gonna sit this one out

- i try to avoid (insert activity) but would you want to do (insert activity) instead?

😶 when your manager asks you to pick up more hours:

- i’m totally flexible to change my schedule if that would be helpful, but i need to keep the same number of hours

- unfortunately i can’t take on more hours right now

- keeping a healthy balance in my life is important, and unfortunately i can’t sustain working more hours

😶 when someone asks you to gossip

- i don’t feel comfortable talking about (x) behind their back, can we change the topic?

- i really don’t wanna talk about (x) like this, let’s talk about something else

- talking about (x) like this feels like a negative way to spend our time, let’s do (insert activity) instead

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